Some Remarks about Marriage

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Published on 09 February, 2014, Hits: 49568

Earthly marriage is a contract that falls into this category of karmic agreement. Although some marriages are matters of convenience, and the piece of paper, with its legal ramifications, matters very little in the cosmic sense, the energy put into the ceremony and ritual of marriage, and the belief systems that accompany it, contribute a great deal to the strength (or weakness) of the contract. Ultimately, all contracts and agreements are energetic. Any certificates or ceremonies are merely outer representations of that energetic bond. You can file divorce papers, sign them, and still be married energetically. Conversely, you can have your marriage papers intact and be energetically divorced.

Marriages are not always confined to “until death do us part.” Sometimes, couples have a strong intention to be together forever throughout eternity. That intention may be triggered from the minute the couple meets in a future lifetime. This partially explains why some couples come together in this lifetime and feel as if they have been married for many years before they even sleep together.

It is our recommendation that you align your inner and outer interests before you engage in any type of marriage. That means that if you feel a deep, energetic, spiritual connection with another and have a strong soul desire to celebrate your coming together through the ritual of marriage, you need to take your time getting to know each other on the physical level first. Ultimately, you have an eternity to enjoy each other’s company, so there is no rush to get married. Having a deep soul connection does not mean you can effectively live together, for the reasons we have already discussed.

If there is an imbalance between the energetic relationship and the outer arrangements, then you are likely to accrue unwanted karma by getting married. From a spiritual standpoint, love is the only real reason to get married. If you are signing papers out of convenience, for money, because one or both of you is insecure and lonely, to please the parents or society, or for some other reason, you are most likely not honoring your spiritual path and are therefore accruing negative karma.

Sooner or later, such a marriage of convenience will manifest negative consequences, either in this lifetime, or in a future one. This is because you are tying each other to identification with the outer world, rather than using your relationship to support each other’s spiritual growth.

The purpose of all enlightened relationships is to inspire, enrich and encourage each other to grow and evolve. There are many ways for souls to grow that can only be accomplished through relationship. As stated earlier, there may be a time for solitude and isolation, but sooner or later you will need to enter into relationship in order to continue on your path.

If you are receiving guidance that it is time to enter into a long-term, committed relationship, through the process of marriage, it is important to frequently ask your Higher Self to bring you someone who is truly for your highest and best soul growth, happiness and well-being. Although there may be thousands of potential partners for you, it is not always easy to “hook up.” The soul's journey is long and complicated, from an Earthly point of view, and waiting a few years for both of you to be ready, is not really much of a wait in the grand scheme of things. So in other words, be patient and enjoy your alone time prior to meeting.

If you are already married, but do not feel it is a “match made in Heaven,” then you might need to break the contract at some point. Again, ask your Higher Self to let you know when the time is right to move on. It might be immediately, but more likely there are things to complete first. Ask to be shown what you need to resolve in order to move forward in the highest and best way.

Regardless of the outer form of the relationship, whether living together, separating, or joining with new partners, you can love each other unconditionally. If feelings other than unconditional love arise each time you think of your partner, you still need to forgive and release past karmic issues before you can truly move on. In Chapter 4, we have given an excellent forgiveness process to help you release and integrate unresolved issues in your relationships.

Excerpt from the book "Soul Integration" by Sal Rachele